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What's the most surprising thing that you enjoy about this stage of your life that maybe you wouldn't have seen 5 years ago or maybe wouldn't have noticed 5 years ago, but you've kind of discovered as where you are right now of what's bringing you joy, what's you know, lighting up your life? My daughter. And also, I think I've found a sense of peace. I ran really fast for a really long time. And it was all I knew. Um I was dropped into a business at a very young age that I had no idea about. Nobody in my family had any idea about. It started with pageants and then Bollywood movies and then Hollywood.
But I think in all of that, it's so uncertain, right? Our jobs. It's gig to gig. So, when I first started, it was just like about you have to keep moving and what's the next thing um it was sort of like this weird training that I didn't know how to unlearn. And I didn't know that there was any other way of being. Mhm. And over the last few years, and I don't know if it's the influence of my husband, moving countries, um working at a different pace, becoming a parent, I maybe it's a confluence of all of them. But I feel at a sense of peace with what I've been able to achieve and what I may or may not achieve. Mhm. Like initially, I was I'm still a perfectionist, but I think I was greedier when it came to ambition. Now, I think I um prioritize time
with family, being at home, nesting. Like right now, we've just moved back to our house in LA. So, unpacking, packing, putting stuff together, editing out, you know, Malti's closet. She's four. I have stuff in there from when she was two. You know, Nick's stuff. It's just It's so fun to go into like I mother-in-law told me this, but you know, seasonal to bring out like everything that's seasonal in your pantry and like make sure that the plates are right and you know, just it's It was never something I would have enjoyed doing even like 7 years ago or 8 years ago. It's a shift in just my whole being and I'm still coming to terms with it and familiarizing myself with it, but I'm allowing myself the time to kind of be
in it. I would have, you know, berated myself earlier, you know, made myself feel guilty for taking a day off. Um I really romanticize not taking time off. So, it's a It's like a complete 360, which is I'm I'm coming to terms with it myself. Yeah, I can imagine. I mean, it feels like you're the expert of knowing when to shift speed. Because when you think about the way you dominate Bollywood in the success you had there, coming out to Hollywood at peak success, you know, when you're already winning and then you go, "Oh no, I want another gear." So, you come over, winning here, and then now as you're saying, winning here, and then going, "Oh no, now I want a different gear." And it almost feels Would you say it's
just time and age or is there something else that allowed you to be at peace as you said? Because peace is such a I think we often think when we're young that pleasure and joy and enjoyment and happiness are the goal and then as you get older you realize peace was actually always It's having time to waste. Mhm. What a luxury. Not spend because it's a currency, time. I feel like with your family, with people you love, or on the job. I love being on set. It's one of my favorite places in the world, but it's when you can just sit and not be answerable to anything. And I take that privilege also very seriously.
I know this is not been handed to me. I have worked really hard to be where I am. So, I'm allowing myself Mhm. that time. You know, our daughter started in a new school. I love being able to pick her up from there, hear her stories, and like be around, and you know, maybe it's just time, age, space, where I am at the moment. I'm not sure. But, I think that every other pivot of mine didn't feel like it was something I controlled. Interesting. I've felt pushed into it. This is the first time I feel like I'm allowing myself to not push myself so hard and see what happens.
Mhm. I just always feel like, you know, the sky will fall if I stop working one day. Yeah. So, I think you are being a bit hard on yourself. And I just want to let you off the hook a little bit because would you say that's been a trait of yours as well as part of your that ambition, that drive? Have you been had to be hard on yourself through this? My therapist thinks so. Oh, really? What does your therapist say, Brene? Cuz that's what I want to know. What is What does your therapist say? Yeah, that's apparently a character trait of mine that I'm very hard on myself. I didn't know that.
I've recently like I'm really turning the lens on myself a little bit in the last few years, uh where I'm kind of trying to get to know this new me. Mhm. There's things that I do and say where I'm like, "Wow, this would not have been my reaction Wow. like 6 years ago. Patience, I like I was not patient. I mean, I really I'm still like I move very fast. I make quick decisions. I try to be like I'm always 5 seconds ahead when it comes to work, but I think having a toddler will teach you patience that it's never in your control.
I think that's why sometimes I think about it. I'm like, "I know that the biggest personal growth I'll ever have is having a kid." Absolutely. You have no control. Yeah, yeah, you think Yeah, I always like, "Yeah, you think you've done all the self-work." And then you'll have a child, yeah, and you'll know exactly how far you are. no idea in the directions your personality will change. Yeah. You cannot predict it. Yeah. It depends on who your kid is and who they turn into. And it just you become metamorphosize into this other person.
Mhm. And in every aspect. Priorities suddenly change and everyone had told me that before. But when you're living it, it's it's it's really wild. Yeah. So I'm still trying to get to know this new me Mhm. who's completely different from even the one you probably spoke about 5 years ago. Like this was that was before I became a parent and um so it'll be fun to get to know her. Yeah, what have you discovered so far that's been the most surprising to you or something that you're like, "Oh, I didn't know that was there." Like what was something that you came across recently that stood out to you about
yourself that you've been finding, discovering, searching? I'm much more patient with things when they don't work out. Mhm. I would like I said or you said, observed, was very hard on myself when something wouldn't work out or I would you know, like just be mad and my approach to like figuring out why it didn't go the way I needed it to go like the control that I needed to have. Like I just I feel like it's okay to not have that and that's a huge change in me because it's affected every aspect of my life, how I interact with human beings, um how I approach work that I take on, definitely how I parent, even how I am
at home. It's made me self-sufficient. It's made me rely on myself a little bit more. It's like created a sense of confidence which um again this is something that I have preached. I know, my mind knows, but I was never able to implement Yeah. to myself which was, you know, when you're holding on to something really tight, you know, you're you're exhausting your muscles. So well said. so tiring. And that's people who like to control things and you know, like alpha personalities are like, it has to go my way. Um and maybe that was how I achieved what I did and my ambition showed itself in, you know, being a control freak almost, like holding on really tight.
Um but that's something I've really consciously and subconsciously worked on. As soon as I recognized the ease of letting the universe kind of push you in the direction you're meant to go, and then within that, of course, work hard every day to, you know, achieve your goals through the day. But it's okay if once in a while it doesn't turn out to be the way you thought it should be because you might end up with what you need instead of what you wanted, which is even more important. Yeah, there's a beautiful Zen teaching that says, letting go is hard, but holding on is harder. Definitely. exactly what you just described, like when you're trying to hold on to this rope and it's tight in the grip.
It's exhausting. exactly, it's exhausting, it's painful, you'll end up with, you know, scars from it. But you just pointed out, do you think that it's almost like it's such a catch-22 because it's like, do you think you'd be this successful if you hadn't had that? No. Right, so that yeah. think so. And I've I like I look at my 20-year-old self and I applaud her for surviving and doing whatever I needed to. Flying all over the world, wanting to achieve everything, having the personality trait of, you know, being someone who just wanted everything and not be apologetic for it. Like my younger self was not apologetic for, you know, wanting a piece of everything,
wanting a legacy, wanting to leave behind something and I really had to separate myself and like look at her and you know, in fact when I was writing my memoir, it was a really critical um experience for me which helped me kind of navigate a lot of these things like because I was talking to my friends and family and you know, trying to corroborate my own memories cuz you know, memories are funny things. Absolutely. What I might remember maybe just my perspective and pers perception is definitely not reality and I used to believe 100% that perception is reality. What you become is what people believe and like as time has gone by, I was just like, man
that girl really had to believe what she had to believe to get to the other side. Yeah. And that's okay. Yeah. And you know, I see a bravado which I admire today. I maybe don't have it anymore, you know, I'm a little bit more sensible, a little bit more level-headed maybe. Still is funny though. Still is funny. Yeah. The comedy is important. [clears throat] Yeah, exactly. Um gets you through stuff. But you know, like it's okay. I think I needed to be and as we grow older, I think for all of us at whatever age in life you're in, but to be able to forgive yourself for how you were Mhm. when you were young or you know, we all
hold on to so many burdens of our past Mhm. and are so hard on ourselves because of those things and just I think focusing on the future and the present is just a way of kind of letting go of that control. And but like Nick's new song, it was so profound to me Mhm. gut punch because that's what it really talks about is when did I get so good at being mean to myself, right? And we all do. And if we with you catch yourself on the couple of things which actually helped me. One is this a constructive thought? Mhm. So when I'm going down the rabbit hole of anything, stress, fear, anxiety, anything. Is it a constructive thought? Will it get me somewhere? And if it's not, it's not meant to be in your head.
Mhm. And the second thing, which has really helped me, is um thoughts are not facts. Mhm. So, when you're spiraling about something or anxious about something or berating yourself for having done something wrong, you have to kind of come back to the facts. Like, what are the facts that I know? And then it just takes away the power. Yeah. Um yeah, those are tools that have really, I think, helped me in this new phase. I love those tools. Yeah, I love those tools. Yeah. Especially that second one, because I feel like the mind is not a truth-seeker, it's a storyteller. And so, it will make up a story and it will create it and it will print it. Yeah,
and it will plaster it. It's It's the biggest fake news in the world is the mind doing its thing. And like, you just start to believe whatever news story it tells you. if we don't talk about it, which most of us are trained to not do, right? Like, we've got to be tough. We've got to like, at least when I was growing up, there was no importance to therapy or constructive conversation, even within family. It was like, you're stronger than that. You don't have to feel that way. Like, almost dismissive of actual feelings. And not just by parents, that was just the culture of how it was. And I feel like um that's a wonderful thing that we've come
to a place where we can actually talk about our feelings, but you know, the more you keep it in, the more you're not allowed to talk about how you're feeling, which is totally different than how you should be behaving or what you should be doing in a situation. Completely different thing. How you're feeling is so crucial to acknowledge. And then it's easier to kind of move on. And but the initial validation you need is I am upset about something and it's okay. Whatever that might stem from. I might be feeling jealous. I might feel like angry that this didn't happen for me or whatever it was or but it's okay to acknowledge that feeling and I find it really beneficial to talk to like my best friend or my husband or someone.
This is also a Nick Jonas learning actually. Go on. Oh, man. I just realized early into our marriage we had, you know, argument that everyone does when you're just getting to know each other and newly married and we had an argument and being the person that I am, you know, I'm the storm in Nick's teacup. That's how we are. Or at least we were. I don't know. We're evolving. I was like well, we need to approach it this way and you know, this is how it'll get better and solutions. And he was like, well, we need to talk about how we're feeling. And those were completely two different things. And I didn't know how to do that. Or like
the fact that I needed to do that. And he was like, let's talk about how I'm feeling, how you're feeling and then we'll be able to move on to a solution which was so mind-blowing to me at that time and profound honestly. And it just changed the way the direction of the conversation. It just it's so healthy to be able to acknowledge, you know, yeah, this made me feel this way. Yeah. And the same honest truth. So then you're like oh my gosh, if something I said made someone feel a certain way, how do I feel about doing that to a loved one? You know, like if a certain behavior from me or a certain behavior from you just makes me
feel not nice, will you keep doing it again? Mhm. Knowing that? So it was such a big like learning for both of us and you know, we've never gone back to the storm in the teacup. How hard was it to get to that point to be able to be like, you know what? Now I'm you know, we're we've always been good. We're fine. Like but how did how long did it take for you to feel I'm not even letting that get to me anymore? I mean it's hard. I still like will read a comment here or there and I'm like, why?
Yeah. Like what did I do to you? Yeah. Why? Why is it Why be so mean? Like I don't even know you. I've never met you. You've seen like some aspects of my life and decided I might be this horrible person or we're not right to like why? Mhm. So it still sometimes in weak moments will get me. Um like so many other things. Like mean things do. But in general, I think I'm just in a place where I want to focus on the good in my life and I feel really blessed to have the good that I do. It's not been an easy journey. And to be in a place where you know, you come out of a storm and the sun is shining and you just kind of like take that moment and I feel like I'm in that moment right now. I have a couple of thoughts on how I
kind of navigated it. Yeah. One is we're living in a time and a period where we get to see and read the opinions that people have of us, right? Like before social media back in the day using the aunties weren't talking in the kitchen. Everyone was talking. They were definitely That's brilliant. Everyone was talking about everything. We just didn't hear about it. Absolutely. nothing's really changed. Yeah. It's just how much information we are Smart. absorbing. So take that power away. That this is all the same people that would have talked about you guys even 40 years ago if you were in the position that
you're in. That's kind of the gig when you become a public person. People will have an opinion on you. So protect your sanity by understanding that this is this comes with the job. It comes with the territory, right? So, that's one. Of course, it can still affect you and you know, um hurt because it comes across your timeline and you're like, "Why?" Mhm. Like, what's the need of it? The second thing that I really strongly believe it's no one's business, honestly. Mhm. And that's okay.
Like, you share as much as you need to and what feels right. And even within our families, right? Like, if you're going for especially Indian families, everyone's in your business. Everyone wants to know all the things. Yeah. But even there, I believe that if it's not your business, I don't need to tell you. Yeah. And so, protect protecting ourselves from the cacophony of opinions is really important. And that's just by like, you've got to do the self-talk. Yeah. And be like, "Do I want to react to this? Is this a constructive thought?" Like, just Yeah, you have to ask yourself [clears throat] that question.
Yeah, you got to nip it in the bud and be like, "That's not something I need to waste my time on." Yeah, I think me and Radhi made a pact early where even with the family piece, it was like, "We solve our problems together." Yeah, exactly. And if we need to communicate with either of our parents, you communicate with your parents, I communicate with mine because that's the open line of communication that has been there for decades. and Exactly. you know, it'll be real. Yeah. Whatever your version of that is I think like, just the public scrutiny um and it's for everyone now. Like, there are comments on everyone's socials, right? Like, Yeah. not just people who are in the public eye.
Yeah. Like, content creators, anyone who's out there, you have comments. So, it's not just a problem of public people anymore. That's just the nature of the world we're living in. Correct. So, for everyone who gets mean comments your comments or on your Instagram or TikTok or whatever, like, really recognizing and maybe young people don't even remember this but like people always talked. There's a Hindi song local come here again. Yes, which means people have to say something. So they're constantly going to say something and that's just human beings. So like just a pinch of salt sometimes is important while reading that stuff. Like
it's hard for me to talk about personal struggles because there's just so much hardship in the world. Like I feel really like even what was hard for me not as hard as what everybody like there's so many people going through so much worse. So there is a part of myself that still is hard on myself um you know it's not hard enough. Your life is not hard enough. You're like don't you shouldn't be feeling that way. Don't be silly like but you know like everyone has struggles in their lives and it's tough to talk about it because you're like what was so hard about that? Just personally it was.
Yeah, yeah not in context or comparison to anyone else. It's it's acknowledging how you feel. I mean that seemed like a big transition for you and when Nick was on the show he spoke so vulnerably and openly about the birth of your daughter which was traumatic to say the least and of course amazing but in the in that moment just how heavy it was and difficult it was just for both of you and going through that process. I wanted to ask if you were comfortable sharing from your heart and your words what that experience was like for you. The whole thing was tough because our journey to Malti itself was really rough. I don't want to get into details because I have not I don't know if I'm ready to talk about it but it was uh
very hard on me and she's a miracle baby because she was my like only hope at that time to be able to have a baby. So when we were told that she's coming like at 27 weeks, I just shut down. I remember sat in front of a fire fireplace in our house for I think like 9 hours or something. And for someone who's always so solution-oriented, I didn't have a thought in my brain. And Nick was somewhere and he came back and we just he grabbed me, we loaded the car and our dogs and we drove. It was COVID time and just the situation under which she was born was so much duress for everyone involved. And it was just really intense.
She was purple. Um and like we didn't know. the NICU nurses couldn't like their little finger was too big for her mouth. How they intubated her um was like I still see that image. Um and thankfully everything was fine with our surrogate. Um so we could focus our energy and just I was just numb. I just remember like I didn't know what to do or how to be useful in that moment. We went with her to the NICU. One of us was allowed at a time. And she cried the first time and it was like a cat. Like just a just like that's all we got.
My mom flew down, my in-laws flew down. But we were in the hospital. And it was such a personally traumatic time. But somehow because we were in and out of the hospital, I remember it leaked and we got a text saying that it's going to her birth is going to be put out by the papers. Um and I don't want to give credence to who sent us that um message or which network it was. But um that if we don't like they're going to put it out in 3 hours. So we were kind of forced into announcing her birth which cuz we wanted to hold on to our own narrative of it but we weren't ready cuz we didn't know what would happen with her, how she would be.
Um it was 3 months, almost 110 days. We stopped everything. We were in the hospital every day. With her we did shifts so that she could be on our skin. Um the nurses said from day two of life that we should be doing skin-to-skin so Nick would sing to her on his guitar. I used to have this little iPod which played all my mantras, my Mahamrityunjaya mantra, my Gayatri mantra, my Om Namah Shivaya, like all of it would play all day in like inside her crib just softly. There were a lot of people praying for her. She was very, very desired, very coveted and treasured because she was so hard.
It was so hard her journey um to get to this planet. And she had like six blood transfusions. You know, I used to feel like she looked just like me and I as a combination but everyone says that she looked like him. But even in those days like as soon as we would be switching out like she would recognize our voices and smile like just her eyes weren't open but she would have a little like slight smile and if you ever meet our daughter she has like the most glorious smile on the planet like full face laugh. So it was a brutal time but I think I talked to myself when I'm in tough situations. Once I got out of the stunned nature of it I realized how afraid she must have been. So I didn't have the privilege of being upset or afraid.
I had to show up as her mom and I had to be tough through it. I had to smile for her. I had to equip myself to take care of a preemie baby and make sure she's the healthiest that she can be. And that's just what my focus turned into. And I was like it is not about me or him and this happened like immediately as soon as she was on my chest for the first time at almost 27 and a half weeks or like two or three days after and she was so tiny that her fingers felt like butterflies on me. She was just like this little 1 lb 11 oz. In that moment I was like I will go to the ends of the earth to protect you.
It's a feeling I have never felt before and I think every first time parent says that but it's like your heart is beating outside of your body. And especially with her cuz she was so vulnerable I became a tigress about everything. From her nutrition to you know her medication to her transfusions to Nick and I as a team we didn't have to talk to each other. It was just done. We used to look at one another and you know, we'd have the diaper bag, we'd have like tomorrow we have to tomorrow is her bath day, we'd have the bath like all the little things make sure that you know, she has this much of milk and is she just every
little thing about her to make sure she gets to that weight and just survives was the only order of business. Everything else took a backseat. And the day we brought her home, she was still so tiny. And I have a big mandir in our house with a big Shivji's murti. Who I really I'm a big Shiv bhakt, I really believe that you know, Bhole Baba has guided me through every difficult moment in my life and I've like sat on his shoulders. And we just as a family sat in front of his vision. And I think that's the first time I really wept. She was still so tiny, but I just I wept for the grace that she survived. The gratitude that she was home. That she chose us. That we could make this happen where you know, she could be in this world and
have this thriving life. Um IVF is tough. And everything that contributed to her being on this earth, I was just so grateful for. And just relieved and after that we had um you know, big havan for her when she came home. And um her naming ceremony and and then it just became real. You know. [clears throat] Yeah. Of course. And anyone who hears that, just, you know, so sorry you had to go through that and sorry that the family had to go through it together as well and I still I was thinking about it, you know, cuz I saw on your podcast when Nick talked about it and um I knew we would talk about it and so but um I was kind of thinking about like why I've started thinking a lot about the whys in my life. Like how did
navigate that? Because when you're doing it, you just do it, right? You just take your choices, you're not really thinking about the why, but in retrospect, I like to kind of unpick at that a little bit. And I was unpicking at it and I guess my choice to have kids at a later stage contributed to this being a really tough journey for me. But if I would have done it earlier, would it have been the wrong time? It wouldn't have been her. So, I have to I kind of made my peace with the fact that this journey came from making the right choice for me and for my biggest flex, honestly, I feel is I'm living this life with the right guy. With the right father. For
this incredible baby that we have. And that was meant to be. And the journey was meant to be. I feel really blessed to be on the other side of it, like I said, but it couldn't have been any other way. Yeah. So, you have to kind of forgive yourself. Yeah, I feel like that overthinking brain Yeah. of well, if I did it this time, if I could have done it like this, we did that, we did She wouldn't have had to deal with what she went through, but yeah. and you were like, oh, it would be a soul. I'd be a completely different person. And I would have been in a different circumstances. Different like I don't know what that would have been like. I can't speak to that whether it
would be good, whether it would be bad. It just wouldn't be this. Yeah. And this is great. So, you know, I can't speak for the parallel lanes of [clears throat] It's what the mind does. Yeah, that's what the mind I always try to bring back to the present and the gratitude of you know, our little family and being able to be together. Thank you for sharing that. It's uh as hard as it is to hear and also to hear how hard it was for all of you. It's inspiring and hope giving I think to so many to just hear about how you all came together, how that hope and that fight and that
persistence and the shifts that you both did for, you know, the months that you both switched for and probably not even much in the change over because you're trying to give time and the way you both describe her as the miracle baby. It's such a, you know, Yeah. such a beautiful Her soul was meant to be here. Yeah. And she clawed her way into life. Yeah. And I will celebrate that every day. Yeah. And so will Nick. Like we celebrate her every day. She literally said that yesterday to me. She's like, "Mama, my birthday just doesn't end." And I was like, "It doesn't." That's amazing.
We celebrate you every day cuz somebody came in and got her a present. Her birthday is in January. Yeah. She's like, "This just doesn't end." And I was like, "And it won't." That's so cute. Every day I love that. birthday. I love that. Well, Priyanka, we reached out to um I reached out to Nick um to share a letter for you. Uh that I could share with you. So, I'm going to read it to you. this on the day you did the podcast? no, no, no. In between.
Oh. In between [clears throat] of the day. So, I'm going to read it to you from Nick. So, this is from Nick to Priyanka. So he said he says my John, which I love. I like just seeing him write that is beautiful. Wow. This is the first time I'm reading it too. So I've not read it. I always saved it because I'm not I don't like reading it before it comes. So I've never read it. I'm embarrassed. He says my John, I'm constantly in awe of the person you are. It's not just the big titles, global icon, leader, force of nature. It's how you show up as a mother, a daughter, a sister, and my wife.
The focus and thoughtfulness you bring to every single day is something I try to live up to. Everyone sees the public side of you, but it's who you are in the quiet moments that really floors me. You have this incredible patience and a way of listening that makes people feel completely safe. I've seen people who usually keep their guards way up just let it go all around you. Finding a kind of healing they didn't know they needed. One of my favorite qualities about you is that you truly never judge. You just meet people where they're at and always find the good in people. That's a rare thing.
You're a leader in every sense. In these last eight years I've watched you take on challenges that would have broken most people. Whether it's on a set or navigating the massive life change of moving countries and blending two very different worlds, you do it with a fire that honestly lights me up. You've stayed so true to your roots while adapting with a kindness that seems to never run out. I'm so incredibly proud of you. I know your dad is looking down with that same pride seeing the woman you continue to be. As you talk with Jay today and he
better have those tissues ready, just know that Malti Marie and I are right there with you. You're the center of our universe. Building this life with you is the greatest honor I have. Knowing we're a team gives me a sense of peace I can't even describe. No matter what life throws at us, I know we can handle it together. I love you endlessly. Nick Jonas. That's crazy, man. Where are those tissues? And next to the said promised.
I'm like I can't believe Nick. He's so honest. I know. I'm like Nick, come on." He's like, "No, it's his wife. Knows what'll get me." Well, that's beautiful. Um I love your love. Uh long may it flourish and continue and thrive and I'm so glad that Malti Marie has both of your love as well and I hope that continues as well. Um you've been so kind. I hope that was a I know he says it to you every day probably anyway, but um He is one to say it. He is not one to not say it and I think he promised me that very early in our engagement, actually.
He said when he asked my mom for my hand in marriage, which he did before even asked me, what a gentleman. Um but he said, "I promised your mom that I'll always keep you happy." And that's going to be my quest is your happiness. And I'll always tell you how loved you are. Mhm. So, being a working mom is tough. I saw my mom being a working mom. I and her mom. So, I know it's doable. Whenever me or my husband leave, either one of us are with Malti. So, if I'm traveling, he's with her. Or we have the grandparents. Uh my in-laws who are beautiful and gracious. While I'm doing this press tour, they're with our daughter. Um or my mom.
But uh I was packing up and I was leaving for a film shoot. I'm working on an Indian movie called Varanasi in Hyderabad. amazing. Yeah, congrats. So excited for this. Thank you. This is huge. I just want to point out for everyone who doesn't know, it's like this is the gentleman who made RRR, Rajamouli. Yeah, who's making uh Varanasi and so it's amazing. It's congratulations. part and an incredible movie and great partners in the movie. So, I've had to fly back and forth from Hyderabad like every month because I come back to
Malti. Um yeah, I literally my airline status has gone up because of this one Um but I was leaving and I was packing up and before I leave for a trip, we talk about it, and we have this invisible string, which is in her heart and my heart, and you know, we talk about the fact that Mom is gone for like 12 sleeps or 15 sleeps, and so we were having that chat, and whenever she has real feelings, she talks to her babies because she is a mama. Um and she has little dollies, which are her babies, and um so when I was leaving, she was looking at her baby and she says, "I'm such a good mama. I don't leave you and go to work."
She's 3 and 1/2 at the time. Oh gosh, that's heartbreaking. So, what was the question again? Yeah, that was my child. That is the most humbling moment. I was like, my toes curled. I was almost about to cancel my flight. Oh my god. I was so stressed out. And then she laughed and smiled at me. She knew it was a joke. You know, she jumped on me and I was like, "Don't say that." And she was like, "No, mama, no." she doesn't like getting me or make her any of us like upset. She's very sensitive to that. Um so but I was like
I was thinking about it the whole flight to Hyderabad. I was like, "Oh my gosh, what's a child to humble you?" Thank you today for just, you know, sharing it as it is and what's going on behind the scenes. all did I say? What's what's happening? You know, what's what's really going on. You can tell me offline if we, you know, got there. I don't know. I don't like that's the thing about you. hug. Yes. One when I'm doing an interview, I try not to think about it. But you also like have this amazing innate quality of being able to like get people to talk about tough things without Very sweet. feeling judged or without feeling critiqued. I
don't know what'll happen when these clips come out, but while we're on this couch, it's real good. Oh gosh, well, no. I my only intention is just that, you know, that people get to talk about the things they don't get to talk about anywhere else, and people get to really understand what's going on when we think we know everything. I think we live in a world right now where we think we know what everyone's going through. We think we know what everyone believes. Yeah. And it's nice to have an opportunity to create space. And I think it's not just creating space for each other, but hopefully this ripples out into people creating space in their families and their friends and Yeah, just each other isn't just
benefit of the doubt. Yeah, some grace and space. Some goodness. Believing in people's goodness. I used to think actually Nick writes this in his letter. But I used to think that was like one of my worst qualities because you I'm the worst judge of people. I always see people for the good in them. Like I don't understand like why would you have a bad agenda? Yeah, right, right. Like why would you not Radhi's like that too, yeah. It doesn't make sense in my brain. Like why would [clears throat] you say something to me that you don't mean?
Mhm, mhm. It's so convoluted and exhausting to think about. Like but there are people like that in the world and as I've navigated, you know, many different countries, you have to and I'm raising a daughter. Like I want to be able to equip her Mhm. to protect herself. And sometimes that kind of transparency or just, you know, oh my gosh, you're what you're saying is probably what I'm getting is not the right thing because, you know, there are tricky people in the world. Yeah. But um it's just tough on me. I've just never been able to navigate that very well. Yeah. That's a good quality as well.
Is it though? It's a little too trusting. Yeah, it's it's I mean I guess as long as you have good boundaries when you discover something, I think that's yeah, it's the problem is the discovery. Yeah, the discovery could be terrible. It depends on how Or you never discover it cuz some people are really good at maintaining, you know, Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. like two-faced nature or whatever. Yes, my husband's a great judge of character. Oh my god, he's the best judge of character. I don't know why he says that about me. I like can't tell. I love you. after you show me your cards. Like after someone does something, I'm like That's sus.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. But, I cannot tell without that. Well, you're a great part great team, great partnership. Uh Priyanka, it's been a joy, truly. It's been such a joy talking to you, and I'm so glad to have you back on after 5 years. Please do not wait 5 years. Please do not wait 5 years to come back. I hope you come back sooner. Yes, for sure. Uh and congratulations. actually, in the studio instead of doing it virtually. Absolutely. You're the best. Congratulations. Thank you. and you'd like to watch something else, this next video has been chosen especially for you based on your viewing behaviors. I hope you enjoy it, and if you do, please subscribe to the channel
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