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Sophie's the best dating coach in the city, and today's client, Sydney, needs urgent help. She just broke up with her boyfriend, can't stop thinking about him and wants to get back with him. Sydney's tweaking a bit. Can Sophie help her out, move on, and figure out how she really feels? Jasmine, the guy forgot about your birthday again. You've been going out for 3 years. You can't just tell me that he's bad with dates. It's the same date every year. Jasmine, if the guy forgets about your birthday one more time, I'm going to come and write it on his head, which he doesn't use.
I'll call you next week to check up again. morning. I can't keep doing this. We broke up a month ago, yet I still check his page. Oh, guess what? He posted a bouquet of flowers for someone. A bouquet of flowers. Sydney. Yes. Yeah. Okay, great. It's nice to see you again. All right. Um, tell me more. Every second of my day, I'm thinking about him. I text him. I call him. I check his socials. I literally called him yesterday at 4 in the morning and hung up before I woke him up. Like, I'm actually going insane.
It's okay. You're not. Um, so you need help moving on? Yes. I just need to find someone else so I can only think about them and forget about my ex and then I'll be fine. Okay. Tell me more about him. He was my everything. He cared about me. He called me every day. I mean, he made me feel safe. And everyone was always telling us how happy they are for our relationship. And then we started fighting more often, like bad fights. He would disappear and then act like nothing happened and I would stay. Okay. How did that make you feel? Betrayed, stressed. Like I still feel like I needed him in the end. Mhm. So, why did you break up with him?
I didn't. He did. He said that I'm too much. That he still cares about me, but I'm the reason why we fight so much. And I'm causing him too much stress right now. And of course, after we broke up, I didn't move on from him. He was so kind and caring before the fights and funny and he's so gorgeous. Like, why is he so hot? And I can't move on because sometimes I think maybe if I change and stop causing us to fight, we can make it work. Okay, I got it. We need to find you a really great guy so you can forget about your ex, move on, and live in a happier relationship.
Yes. Yeah, we're not doing that. What? We're not doing that right now. You're not ready to date yet because you're still attached to your ex, not because he was actually caring and fair, but because he made you feel loved and comforted before the fights. And you still have hope that everything can work out when it's a pretty big dead end. If I send you on a date like this right now, you're just going to compare every single guy to your ex. And that's not fair to you or the guys. So, we first have to fix how you feel first. I recommended this to a lot of my previous clients and I'm actually working with BetterHelp right now.
BetterHel is the sponsor of this video. It's therapy. Therapy? Mhm. But way easier to start. You can do it video call, phone call, even text if that's what's most comfortable for you. They help find you a therapist pretty quick. And if you don't feel like it's the right fit, you can always switch. No pressure. We got to fix your head first and then your love life. So to fix my problems with my ex, I need to start therapy. I mean, is it that serious? Well, you don't need something insanely serious to happen in your life to start therapy. But letting go, processing your emotions, and figuring out how you want to move on is it's pretty serious enough
to ask for help. And plus, you can do it all from your bedroom. Like, not even getting out of my bed. Exactly. And for the first month, you can get 10% off using the link betterhelp.com/sophie manassian. And the link is in the description. So, I have to do this first. Well, this is step two, actually. Oh, before therapy, I'm putting you on a 30-day no contact challenge. That means absolutely no texting, no calling, or even thinking about getting back with your ex for one whole month. And how am I supposed to do that? I mean, I just thought about him for like the eighth time in the last 10 minutes. I will be keeping an eye on you for the entire month. That's crazy. So, is calling him at 4 in the morning?
You really think this will work? If you trust me, yes. Sophie needs to make sure Sydney follows the four steps, especially therapy and the 30-day no contact challenge. Let's see if Sydney is able to complete it. Jasmine, not only did he forget your birth date, he forgot about your birth year, too. So, he doesn't know how old you are. No, it is not a celebration that he congratulated you a day after your birthday. Jasmine, I will call you back later. Don't eat the cake he got you. So, I did it. I started therapy.
Great. And it's actually going really good. I didn't think I was going to share much, but I ended up saying even more. And then after our session, my therapist asked me questions that made me think about things I didn't even realize were bothering me. I felt lighter after. I mean, that's fantastic. And how are your 30 days going? Oh, you know, Sydney, what? I didn't do anything. Okay. I just text him. You call that didn't do anything. Sydney, that's literally it. I mean, come on. I just said hey. Well, hey. I'm taking your phone away from you. Excuse me.
What? You're putting me on phone arrest? Yes. No. Only my mom can do that. Well, she would agree with me. So, pass it over. This M no I can't live without this. This is my life. Okay. I call my friends, my parents. I watch videos. Directions. I mean, what if I get lost? You're already lost. You're texting your ex. If you can show me that you can control yourself, I will give it back to you. But for now, buy a physical map and watch YouTube from your TV. I don't have a TV. Then use your neighbors.
Sydney's in her car totally not texting her ex, right? Or so Sophie thought. Come on, Sydney. Stay strong, girl. Oh my god. Whoa. No, it's No. So, you got a second phone? No. I forgot I had it. Oh, yeah. Right. Just roll down the window. Fine. New rule. Every time you try to text him or call him or even think about him, you got to give me 10 push-ups. I'm not doing that. Well, you hired me for a reason. Yeah. And I'm starting to question it all. Well, you can question it while you give me push-ups.
You thought about him? Oh my gosh. Come on. I can't believe you're making me do this. Well, Oh, I can't believe you're making me do this. You're fine. No one is watching you except for those um three guys over there. Girl, 10. Great job. Day one completed. Now pass over any other six phone you forgot you had. Out. No. Let's go. No. Pass it over. Now, with Sydney's new punishment of push-ups, she's doing much better. And therapy is getting better, too. Oh my gosh. Did her ex just text her?
Day 10. How you feel? Good. Just been studying. Good. Can I use your restroom? Yeah, of course. It's this way. NO. STOP. COME HERE. DON'T GET OFF. NO, DON'T. PLEASE ANSWER HIM. YOU'RE NO BREAKING OR TAKING SIT. I'm sorry. No. SIT. DON'T STOP. SIT. BEN. SIT. Sophie, I miss him. I don't care how bad it was. I just really miss him. I mean, if my heart still feels this way, shouldn't I do something?
Shouldn't I follow it? Yeah, it does mean something. It means you got used to him. Your heart doesn't know the difference between love and comfort. Okay. It just wants what it's familiar with. But what was it really like with him? H fighting, tears, ghosting, betrayal. Okay, you didn't feel safe with him. Sydney, you don't miss him. You miss the version of him that made you feel loved. Okay, stay with me. Don't go backwards now. Okay. You We're on day 10 and we're not losing that. Okay. All right. Hopefully that chaos doesn't happen again. Sophie and Sydney move on to day 15. And oh, who is that? He seems like a
nice guy. Sophie, what are you planning? You know, he used to tell me, "Swear I didn't reply. I fell asleep as soon as I got home." No, he did not. What? Like Rose was fully knocked out when he closed his front door. Oh, do you guys know where the nearest store is? Uh, yeah. It's like two blocks near the fountain. Oh, okay. You know, uh, we never see you around. Did you just like just move in? And how old are you?
Oh, um, yeah. Well, I'm Leo. I'm just staying here with my brother for a couple weeks, so I don't really know the neighborhood that well, but I'm 19, and apparently my brother has no laundry detergent, so I need to buy some. Wait, didn't you say that you were running out of detergent? I did? Yeah, you did. Oh, yeah, I did. I've been wearing the same clothes for like a month. pajamas, you know. Pajamas have to bed. Yeah. Anyways, um you know, you two should like go grab some detergent together and you know, might as well.
Yeah. Um Yeah, sure. I guess. Let me know. I'm staying in apartment 308. Well, nice to meet you, Leo. Yeah. And you, too? This is Sydney. Okay. Well, it's nice to meet you, Sydney. Uh, you too. Yeah. One, two, three. No. I better be in shape by the end of this month. Oh yeah, keep going. Day 15. You got it. Four. It's finally day 30. Let's see how the girls celebrate the final day that they have been waiting for.
Did I do it? You freaking did it. Yay. I didn't text him. You didn't text him for 30 days straight. Wow. I'm like a new person. Well, not a new person, but definitely better than yourself a month ago. So, how's therapy? It's great. I mean, I write things down during the day to then vent about them all. Well, I'm glad you feel better. You definitely look much happier. Just finished my first month of therapy. I think I'm going to keep going. That's great. And not going to lie, I think I got stronger from all those push-ups. You're welcome.
I think we can cross off 32. Yeah. H Before I do that though, I got to finish one last touch. Sophie and Sydney are enjoying their celebration when Oh, it's Leo. The two seem to have really great chemistry together. Is this the time to cross off the last step of Sophie's plan for Sydney? Well, now I love myself. Don't forget to treat yourself. You deserve it. I definitely do. Hey. Oh, hey, Leo. So, um, I may have gotten detergent without you, but I knew you needed some, so here, and I hope you like that brand.
Well, enjoy your guys' dessert. Uh, you do you want to try some? We have an extra one. Uh, yeah, sure. Thank you. Of course. Oh, okay. So, are you guys um celebrating any special occasions or uh life? Okay, I like that. You know, if you want to get some good dessert, there's a cute cafe across the block. They have the best ice cream. Okay. Well, I'll definitely have to try that. Uh Sydney, didn't you say that is your favorite? Uh yeah, I love it. Oh, well, maybe we can go.
Yeah, I'm down. Okay, cool. Oh. Um, here. Let me know when you're free. I will. And, uh, let me know when you need to charge. I will. Well, thank you guys for the dessert and it was nice meeting you. No problem. Wow, I see why finding someone new was last on our agenda. You know, he seems great. You should get to know him. I will. And thank you. You are very welcome. who the hell is that? Just my new user ID for my ex. That's genius. Mhm.
This is actually so good. I didn't lie when I said this was my favorite. Sophie's back in her office. Sydney and Leor are doing great. And Sydney figure out herself and her feelings. But who will show up at Sophie's front door? I don't know. Oh my god. Well, uh Sydney, can I call you back? Okay. Um hi. Are you Sophie? Yes. What can I help you with? I saw your ad on. You help with like dating problems, right? Yes. Well, I really messed up and I need help getting her back.
Okay. And who would that be? Uh Sydney? She's my ex-girlfriend. Sydney. Interesting. Yeah. Well, we ended things badly and she stopped replying to my text, so I'm really pleased to like her. Can you help me? I'll see what I can do here. That's my website. So, you can book an appointment there, pay, and um you know, we'll we'll we'll get started. Thank you so much. Yeah, of course. My pleasure.
