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What if compassion isn't just soft or sentimental, but it's actually a skill that strengthens your boundaries and your nervous system? And what if the way that you speak to yourself when you're struggling actually shapes your ability to heal? You're listening to Relish, the podcast for people ready to stop chasing self-improvement and start savoring their lives. If you're tired of the hamster wheel of healing and hungry for more joy, presence, and meaning, you're in the right place. Hey friends, it's Alyssia and welcome back to Relish, where we reclaim joy, presence, and authenticity in the middle of being a fully messy human. Today's episode is a big entree because we are talking about compassion. Compassion not
just for others, but also for yourself. And I actually got this idea from someone on Instagram, Monica. Thanks, Monica. She replied to one of my stories saying this was her focus right now. And I teach this concept out in the world. So, I thought, what a perfect opportunity for an episode. So, we are going to explore how compassion is different than empathy and why self-compassion isn't just this, you know, feel-good trend, but it's actually a skill backed by science. And you'll also hear a personal story about what shifted when I stopped avoiding suffering and started relating to it differently. I'm going to share a variety of practical tools. Some are embodied practices that you can do during this very episode to help you
feel a shift and some that you can take with you after you leave. So, if you have ever said to yourself, I know I'm too hard on myself, but I just don't know how else to be. This episode is for you. It's for you. If you haven't already, please follow or subscribe. It helps us keep growing this community. And if you're someone who feels deeply and who cares a lot, then share this episode with someone who might need to hear that you don't have to carry it all to care. All right, so let's get into it and let's start with compassion. What is compassion? The Daly Lama said, "Compassion is the wish for another being to be free from suffering. Love is wanting them to have happiness." And that's how it's often
defined in various Buddhist texts, wishing others to be free from their suffering. And if we look at the etmology of the word compassion, the Latin roots, it makes sense. Calm refers to how we are with and passion means suffering. Isn't that interesting that passion is suffering? Anyway, how we are with suffering is what the word compassion breaks down to. Now, often when I teach this concept, people will ask, "What about empathy?" Or they'll say something that inadvertently kind of conflates the two. People often use empathy and compassion interchangeably, but they're really quite different experiences. So, I'm going to break it down and I'll bring in the third uh cousin, if you will, sympathy, into the
mix as we define these. So, sympathy is understanding what someone else is feeling more cognitively understanding. So there might be a sense that you know having gone through something like this I can understand how someone might feel that. That's sympathy. Empathy is feeling with another. It's actually taking on what someone else is feeling. Compassion is feeling for another. It's feeling for their suffering and wanting them to be relieved of it. But you're not taking it on. With empathy, we are often experiencing the other person's emotions as if they are our own. And studies show this. They show that if you put people in fMRI machines, you put people there that have some pain and
then people experiencing empathy for those people, the same parts of the brain are activated. Okay? The same pain centers are activated by the person feeling empathy. So they are feeling what the other person is feeling. There's a good amount of research on burnout in health care workers and some studies have demonstrated that empathy training leads to burnout but compassion training does not because compassion allows me to hold space for someone's suffering to be with it and to want them to be relieved of it but to be clear that it's not mine. So it's like there's a boundary there. Compassion is like empathy but with boundaries. And again, neuroscience shows compassion does
activate different brain networks than empathy. And in fact, people feeling compassion are more likely to experience a state of profound well-being. A lot of my clients are very empathetic and some identify as empaths. And I think empaths are a real thing. Okay. But I also think a lot of people who become attached to that word, they are very sensitive people, as in they have sensitive systems, but they haven't learned how to have emotional boundaries to protect themselves. And when they build up that capacity to be able to practice compassion, then their sensitivity uh and their tendencies toward empathy can actually become more like a superpower. they can direct and use. Having
compassionate boundaries is knowing what I can do and also knowing what I can't do. And this skill requires a lot of self-awareness. There is so much suffering in the world. I have to have boundaries to be able to take care of myself to take care of my system. And what happens if I am not aware and if I am highly sensitive is that my system will become overwhelmed and then I will go into what's called empathetic distress and I start to shut down and I start closing my heart because I can't handle it. It's too much. So I can share a personal example about this. I remember when I first learned about this compassion versus empathy concept. I was living in New York just out of college
and I was just getting into my personal growth. I was becoming aware and I remember walking around one day and realizing that I avoided looking at people in my neighborhood who were experiencing homelessness. like I avoided making eye contact with them because often they'd ask for some kind of support and it was hard for me to say no or uh hard to know what to say at all. So I just avoided it, you know. And once I became aware of this, I became really curious about it and I started paying attention to the impulse that I had. And I realized what was happening for me emotionally was that I was feeling this heaviness, a heaviness about them being houseless. And of course now I can also look back and see I was projecting onto what might be
happening for them. you know, they might not be feeling any heaviness or any kind of way about their situation, but through my lens, that's what I assumed. And I learned as I explored this, as I looked at it, that it would make me feel sadness to see a mom with a child asking for money. And it was painful to see that. And it was painful to say no. And it was easier to just, you know, look away than to feel that pain. And so that's what I did compulsively. I looked away. I avoided. I mean, I hadn't even realized I was doing it before. But as I began to notice this, I decided to use it as an opportunity in a way to kind of experiment. So I started intentionally not avoiding eye contact. you know, I
wasn't like deliberately making eye contact and staring, but I would just notice my impulse to look away, and instead I would not. And if someone tried to engage, I would acknowledge it. And that might mean that we make eye contact or smile. Uh, sometimes I would stop and there'd be a brief exchange, a little bit of talking. Sometimes if they ask for support, I would give it to them. And what I also learned as I became more aware was that a lot of times they didn't ask for anything. Sometimes it was just the exchange of eye contact or the smile or the few words. And I started to realize perhaps that if they were trying to engage with me, maybe all they were looking for was
connection or to be seen, to be acknowledged. And as I grew and as I gained more emotional intelligence and as I learned how to regulate my own emotions, I got more comfortable having my boundaries and saying no if they did ask if I wasn't able to give. And I could see that even if I couldn't give money or physical support in some way, I could still see them. I could still keep my heart open and meet this person with kindness and with humanity because what happened is I had been compulsively closing my heart due to the empathetic distress that I would experience. And again, I'm not trying to imply that all people experiencing homelessness are suffering. I know that is a stereotype, but that did inform my
projection and my bias at the time. So the point I'm trying to make is that there's so much suffering in the world. There is so much suffering in the world and no one benefits if we close our hearts to suffering. But also no one benefits if I cannot regulate myself if I can't stay emotionally regulated. I can offer compassion and keep my heart open and wish for the relief of their suffering without taking on the suffering. That's compassionate boundaries. Okay. So, we have talked about compassion and empathy for other people and I want to dive a bit deeper into self-compassion. But first, I'd like to guide you through a short experience. You all are probably learning this by now. Last week, I think
we talked about embodiment. And I find and believe that embodied experiences are really the best way to learn and to grow and at least to make lasting change because change doesn't come from just consuming information intellectually. It comes from integrating that into the body. So if it feels safe for you mentally and in your physical space, you can allow your eyes to close. And if that doesn't work for you, just become present. And you can rest your eyes downward if you'd like. Unless you're driving or walking, you know, keep paying attention. But just follow along here for a moment. Take a breath and imagine that a dear friend, okay? someone you love, someone you care about, someone you wish well. They come
to you in some kind of pain. Maybe they've experienced some kind of heartbreak or failure or loss and they've come to you for support. And just notice in that scenario, what do you say to them? How do you support them? What's the tone that you take? What's your posture? What's your body language? And take a moment to notice how you are able to show up for that person and what that looks like and what that feels like. And then you can let go of that scenario and bring to mind a moment that you struggled, a moment when you experienced some kind of pain, failure, loss of some kind. And notice how do you respond to yourself in those moments? What do you say to yourself?
What's your tone? What's your posture? What happens in your body? What does your body feel like? So, just notice this. Notice how you tend to relate to yourself. and notice if there's a difference between how you treat your friend and how you treat yourself. Okay, take a breath. You can open your eyes. So, did you notice a difference between how you treated yourself and how you treat your friend? When I facilitate about this in a group, I often ask, "How did you show up for your friend?" And people will say things like, "I gave him a big hug." you know, I asked what they needed. I said, "You're going to get through this." I said, "I love you." Or, "I'm so sorry it's hard." You know,
all kinds of responses, but typically kind, encouraging, supportive, compassionate. And then I ask, "How did you show up for yourself?" And this often breeds very different responses. Usually something like, "It's my fault. I'm the worst. I'm a idiot. Why can't I get anything right? I'm so stupid. Does this resonate? Often we say things to ourselves that we would never say to another human. There's a saying, treat others the way you want to be treated, but we would not treat others the way that we treat ourselves.
We have the capacity to be compassionate for others. Self-compassion is applying that to ourselves. It's treating ourselves like a friend. Self-compassion is a practice that helps us become an ally to ourselves instead of an enemy. Most of what I'm going to reference about self-compassion comes from Kristen Nef. She's kind of the pioneer researcher on self-compassion. Uh I mentioned before that one of my jobs is I am a Hoffman process teacher and a couple years ago we had an all teacher conference for all the teachers and Kristen Nef came and led us through some workshops. I feel lucky that I got to learn from her in person and uh I'm going to share some of what I learned here and I will link all of her
materials and uh socials and website and everything in the show notes. So why do we do that? Why do we talk to ourselves so differently than we talk to a friend? You know, self-compassion can be really challenging and there's a lot of conditioning around it. But before we dive deeper into what it is, sometimes I think it's helpful to talk about what it's not because there are some misconceptions about it or myths as Kristen Nef calls them. And the first is that self-compassion is about pity. No, it is not. This is not a pity party. Okay, think about pity with another person.
Pitying another person. There's this uh sentiment of like, oh, poor you. It's like I'm condescending energetically. I'm looking down on them. Compassion for another person, as you now know, it's not looking down on them. It's wanting them to be relieved of their suffering. And that's what self-compassion is, too. It's wanting you yourself to be relieved of the suffering you're experiencing, not pitying. Another myth is that self-compassion will make us weak or wimpy or vulnerable. Um, and actually I think it is vulnerable, but in the truest sense of the word, it's courageous. You know, self-compassion cultivates resilience.
Some people get this idea that self-compassion is selfish or selfentered. I see this a lot in the personal growth world that even doing personal work is selfish or self-centered. But I find self-compassion actually helps me set better boundaries. and meet my own needs so that I can show up for the people in my life more. I mean, if you think about the instructions when you're on an airplane, if you've ever been on an airplane and there's an emergency and you got to put on an oxygen mask, whose mask are you supposed to put on first? Your own. This is kind of crazy to me. Like, even if you have a child, you are supposed to put on your own mask first. Why? Why is that? because you are not good to anyone
else if you're dead, if you're not there. You can't pour from an empty cup. Another myth is that it becomes like an excuse. Uh or that, you know, there's a sense I won't drive myself to succeed unless I'm really being hard on myself. Sometimes we learn we have to motivate ourselves with self-criticism. But the research shows that shaming ourselves, shame and criticism don't actually lead to behavior change long term. Whether that's actually true for shaming ourselves or other people. Shame, criticism keeps us stuck because for me at least it leads me to like a perfectionistic sense or a fear of failure. I become paralyzed by it. Like I'm not even going to make any moves forward because I'm so afraid of failing.
So all of these myths are reinforced all around. You know, most of us didn't learn self-compassion growing up. I know I didn't. I actually do think it might be changing today uh with parenting. Some of my friends who are parents are integrating this, but historically this is not what was circulated. And in our western culture, you know, we it's emphasized that we should be kind to other people, but not really to ourselves. Not to mention our brain's inclination to seek out the negative, that negativity bias. So self-compassion doesn't come naturally. And it is something that we have to train. It's a skill that we have to train. We have to practice it. Self-compassion is also not
just like an airy fairy idea. It's a really wellressearched concept. And we can be certain that the myths that I just talked about, they're not true. they are miss because self-compassion is deeply accountable and what I mean by that is Kristen Nef has determined these three components that make up self-compassion based on the research and these components allow us to be sure we are not making excuses. So, one of the three components of what Kristen Nef calls mindful self-compassion is mindfulness. As you know, that is my most special interest. Mindfulness is non-judgmental awareness of the present moment. It helps us stop and check in with the question, what is happening right now?
Right in this moment. It helps us be open to the reality of this moment. And it helps us see it clearly as it is, you know, not judging it, not evaluating it, not uh under or overindulging it, just seeing it clearly. And it keeps us from getting lost in the story or the pain or overidentifying with it. So mindfulness is the first component. The second component is what's called common humanity. This is a sense that I'm not alone. There's an interconnectedness. Being human is hard. No human gets away from suffering. We all suffer. And when I'm suffering, remembering that I'm not alone can help me feel less isolated. And it helps me
remember that, you know, other people have had to go through hard things, too. Maybe things like this. And maybe not. Even if the circumstances are different or the degree of pain is different, suffering is still suffering and it's hard for everyone. And then the third component is self-kindness. This is really meeting ourselves with a kind tone as we would a friend. So instead of being critical, we can just meet ourselves with an energy of being supportive, caring, warm, accepting. So these three components together help us to not get lost in making excuses or pitying ourselves or overidentifying uh and help us not be so hard on ourselves. And research shows because self-compassion cultivates resilience, it actually allows for
greater change. When we are beating ourselves up, when we're not accepting ourselves or meeting ourselves where we're at, that's resistance. Resistance just breeds more resistance. So, think about resistance in general. If I use an example like struggling to fall asleep, and this is a real struggle. I have struggled with sleep my whole life. Falling asleep, staying asleep, sleeping deeply, all of it. And I've gotten better at navigating it. But just consider if this is you or if not, you can imagine it. If you are struggling to fall asleep the night before a big work day or event or something, what happens?
Does fighting the sleeplessness help you fall asleep? No. I mean, at least not for me. It just fuels the fire. Resistance is feudal. Um, a meditation teacher made up this formula for this phenomenon. At least I think they did. And I love this formula. My like intellects in the room will love this. It's suffering equals pain times resistance. Suffering equals pain times resistance. What part of that is inevitable? Pain. Physical pain. Emotional pain. broken bones, grief, worry, heartbreak, hardship. It is a part of life. It is unavoidable. But suffering comes from us resisting the pain.
Resistance amplifies the pain. We end up suffering not only because it is painful in the moment but because we are arguing with reality and we are frustrated thinking that thing should be some other way. There is an anecdote circulated through Buddhist circles about a double arrow. I have an excerpt I want to read you. Let me get it. Okay. So this excerpt is noted to be by the Buddha. Who knows if that's true but the sentiment is helpful. It says, "When touched with a feeling of pain, the ordinary uninstructed person sorrows, grieavves, and laments, beats his breast, becomes distraught. So he feels two pains, physical and mental just as if they were to shoot a man with an arrow and right afterward were to
shoot him with another one so that he would feel the pain of two arrows." So if you imagine yourself walking through you know a forest and suddenly you are hit by an arrow. I know this is hard to imagine in our life today but you know the first arrow is the actual bad event. That's what causes the pain. When we start reacting to that pain it's like we shoot ourselves with a second arrow. Can you avoid the second one? That's the question. It's about how we choose to respond rather than react and meeting ourselves with compassion, kindness, honesty about what's happening, seeing things as they actually are. Then we can respond and move forward
instead of resisting and keeping ourselves further stuck. After some years of research, Kristen Nef expanded her self-compassion model to include something called fierce self-compassion. And what she had been naming previously as self-compassion, she went on to call tender self-compassion to differentiate it from fierce self-compassion. So if tender self-compassion is, you know, being with ourselves in a kind, warm way when we're suffering, fierce self-compassion is a way to stand up and protect ourselves or to take action. All the suffering in the world, we cannot just, you know, sit around and meditate and watch and hope everything's going to work out. We do have to take action. Justice matters. And with
ourselves, we can't just sit around forever in tender self-compassion without taking action. I like this addition of fierce self-compassion because it leads to change and movement. However, one thing that I have discovered in my own practice is that tender self-compassion has to come first. I can't start with fierce. And I actually may not always need the fierce. I may not always need to take action. If we go back to like compassionate boundaries, but with any rupture or pain point, I will probably need some kind of tender self-compassion. So, let me give an example. Let's say um I have been in a relationship. I've been in love and I just got dumped and you are my best
friend and you come over to my house. You come over the day that it happens and I am in my bed eating bon bonss crying. I'm just I'm a wreck. I'm distraught. And what do you do when you see me? How do you show up for me? Maybe you offer me some kind, loving words. Or maybe you sit down and eat some of the bon bonss with me or watch TV or, you know, I don't know, order a meal for us. Just spend time with me. Maybe you ask what I need. Whatever. tender compassion and love makes sense. But then let's say that it's been like I don't know four, five, six weeks.
You come over, I am still in bed, still eating bon bonss. I haven't showered. It's getting nasty. Okay. And when you come over, what do you do? You're probably not going to get in the bed and eat the bon bonss and order me dinner. You know, as a caring friend, really, you might tell me, "Hey, I love you, and it's time to get the out of bed. Go take a shower. We're going out." Fierce compassion and love to lead to action. Now, what if you came in on day one, the day that it happened, the day I get dumped, and you tried to give me that fierce compassion? No, that wouldn't work. I need to cry and grieve and let the, you know, feels happen on their own
for a time. If I skip to fierce, it's like I'm bypassing all those challenging emotions. So, the tender has to come first. But eventually, I do have to, you know, put on my big girl pants, if you will. Okay. Self-compassion isn't something we give ourselves to make ourselves feel better. It's not a hack. It's something that we offer ourselves because we are in pain. So, have you ever been in pain, going through a hard time, and then you go to a friend or a partner or someone and you express your pain and then they try to fix it. Has this happened to you? They try to fix it. And what do you feel when they do that? I feel pissed. I feel invalidated.
I feel annoyed. Why? because I don't want them to fix it. What is it that you want in that moment? I want someone to just be there, you know, be in it with me, witness the pain and let me have it. So with self compassion, that is why we give it to ourselves, not in order to make it go away, but because pain is here and it's needing attention. We are going to get to the practices that you can try in real time in a moment. But first, just a quick pause to hear from our sponsor. Okay, welcome back. So, let's get into the real life practices that can help you bring this into your body and into your experience. First, there is a dessert episode attached to this one that will give you a recorded practice.
I have adapted Kristen Nef's self-compassion break, and I will link her original one in the show notes. She has tons of recordings on her site. Um, but this is one practical way that you can practice self-compassion. And I wanted to share some other ideas, too. Different tools work for different people, so find what works for you. For instance, some people love affirmations. I am not so much a fan. You know, maybe in some future episode I'll talk about why, but for a lot of people that tends to work. I do like mantras a little bit more than affirmations. So, you could choose something that resonates with you
and it's simply a word, a phrase that you offer yourself during a hard moment. So, it could be, you know, just this is hard or I'm doing my best. I'm not alone. It's going to be okay. All right. So, whatever it is, you just kindly say that to yourself. Just like when you might say that to a friend who needs to hear that in that moment, sometimes you need to hear that and you can give it to you. There is also a practice called a self-compassion letter. And there's a lot of research behind this practice. It's very powerful. With it, you basically write a letter to yourself. So in the second person, okay, if for me it
would be dear Alysia and then I write to myself about whatever the situation is that I'm struggling with and I'm writing it as if I'm writing to a friend who is going through the same situation. All right, so I will link that practice in the show notes as well. Journaling in general is also a way to give yourself compassion, you know, to reflect on what's happening and hold space for yourself. Some of my favorite ways to practice and build up self-compassion are mindfulness meditation. I mean, honestly, basic breath meditation, I believe, has done so much for the way that I talk to myself. I know this might not feel uh natural or intuitive as it relates to self-compassion for a lot of people. But if you've ever done meditation, like basic breath
meditation, you know, at least in the tradition I was trained, you focus on the breath. You let that be your anchor of attention. And uh when your mind wanders away from your anchor, you bring your attention back to the anchor to the breath without judgment. And if you've ever done this, most people will notice it is pretty challenging to stay focused on the breath. And I think the powerful part is the non-judgment. So when my mind wanders away, instead of using this critical tone, you know, you're so terrible at meditating, you idiot to meet yourself with kindness. Oh, look at that. Hm. The mind wandered.
It's no problem. And cultivating that inner tone while on the cushion during meditation practice, that translates so much to life out and off the cushion, I find. And actually, I believe this week, maybe on Friday in that clickbite, I'm sharing a mindfulness meditation with you as a dessert practice. So stay tuned for that. You can give that a try, too. Another meditation practice I love to cultivate compassion and self-compassion is a loving kindness meditation. And I'm going to talk more about that in next week's entree episode. So stay tuned for that. And you'll actually get a practice of that, too. There's a lot of desserts coming here. I also find it extremely supportive and extremely self-compassionate
for me to just get out in nature. It is so healing, rejuvenating for me and that alone is a practice that I return to. Uh I try to get outside every single day. I also want to share two hand gestures that Kristen Nef taught when I was in that in-person workshop with her. I love embodied practices and uh she shared a couple of hand gestures I find really helpful for in the moment. So the first is taking one hand and placing it in the center of your chest just lightly with an open palm and then resting the other hand on top also with a flat palm. So you've got one palm on top of the other over the center of your chest. And it's just gentle, not rigid, not closed off or tight, just soft and open. And this
is an embodied representation of tender self-compassion. So you can try that out and just notice what that's like for you. And there is research on this hands over heart practice. I can't remember the exact study. It's been a couple years since I've thought about it, but I will try to find it for the show notes. But I believe, if I remember correctly, it's been shown that this self-touch releases the same neurochemicals, the same calming physiological pathways as touch by another human. So it's a very powerful practice. Okay. So the other gesture, take one hand. So I will use my left hand. Okay? And take it in a light fist. So not like overly tight, but just a light fist. And place that in
the center of your chest. And then take your other hand, your right hand, and just rest it on top of that fist in the center of your chest. It's not tight or rigid, okay? Just light. And this is what Kristen Nef taught us is an embodied representation of fierce self-compassion. So try that out. This fist with the hand on top. And then maybe go back and forth between the flat hands on heart. Tender. And then try again. Fierce. Just as you go back and forth, notice if there's a difference for you. I do notice a difference. And different people tend to resonate with different ones. There's not a right or wrong.
Okay? And I actually find they each support me differently at different times. So hands on heart, you know, I feel a sense of warmth and tenderness, a softness, but with the fist, I feel I feel strength. I feel empowered, resilient. So there you go. You know, take it or leave it. These are tools in your toolbox if you want to take them with you. I do want to make a distinction about self-compassion that feels really important in this world of self-help because I often have clients come to me and say what they want to work on is self-esteem and I understand the sentiment but there's some interesting research on self-esteem and self-compassion.
Self-esteem is based on positive self evaluation. So it is dependent on evaluating ourselves compared to other people feeling better or worse than others. So if I'm better, if I'm, you know, smarter, prettier, whatever, then I will have higher self-esteem. But if I am less, if I'm worse, if I'm not as smart or pretty or whatever it might be, I'm going to have lower self-esteem. So self-esteem is literally dependent on comparison. So my experience of how I view myself ends up dependent on another person. So who has all the power? Who has all the power over my experience then? Everybody else. And there is always going to be someone you know better.
Trying to be perfect is a setup. And I am going to do a whole episode on perfectionism in a couple of weeks. that spoiler alert, it's not possible and it's not supportive to growth. So with self-compassion, you don't have to feel better than other people to feel good about yourself. With this paradigm, this self-compassion approach, the idea is that innately we all deserve compassion. We all deserve understanding just because we exist. We don't have to earn it. You know, it's not because we have some set of traits like being pretty or talented or smart. It's not conditional. And there's also a ton of research backing the benefits of self-compassion.
People who score higher in self-compassion tend to experience greater motivation, greater uh happiness, optimism, health, performance. There's more resilience, and there's also less depression. And self-compassion is a responsive practice. So we've talked about respond versus react, fixed versus fluid. Okay? If that fixed reactive mode is the fight orflight mode, activating the sympathetic nervous system, self-compassion dials up the parasympathetic nervous system. It downregulates the threat response. So self-compassion isn't just something that's nice to have. It's actually something that changes how we function, how we feel, how we heal. And maybe more than anything, it gives us a way to
relate to ourselves, to meet ourselves when we are suffering and struggling, and to not meet ourselves with pressure, not with perfection, but with presence. So, this is where we will wrap for today. And if this episode resonated, here's what you can do next. First pause, place a hand on your heart. Let yourself feel that here you are already practicing. And then I ask you kindly follow, subscribe to the show so that you know new episodes can land right in your feed. Please rate us five stars. Help us spread the word. Share it on social. And if this gave you something valuable, share it with a friend, especially someone who feels really deeply and might need the reminder. You know, you deserve to be kind to
yourself. Come and connect with me on social media. I'm going to share more practices, more prompts, behind the scenes stuff, sneak peeks of what's coming next. Come hang out with me and remember that self-compassion is not about fixing yourself. It's how you meet yourself while you're healing. It's not weakness. It's one of the greatest sources of strength we can have. Thanks so much for being here. I will see you soon.
