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What is blocking us from manifesting love? I really think that the majority of people spend most of their time in a state of readiness in their life. They're always ready for whatever is going to take place. The hormones that are associated with getting up and going and reacting stressfully, those hormones are hormones that create a primitive mechanism as where we go into survival, right? And living in stress and living in survival is not a time for us to open our hearts, right? So, get bruised, get damaged, get injured in your life, the stronger the emotion you feel towards that event in your life, the more altered you feel from that
experience. Uh the brain freezes a frame and takes a snapshot and that's called a long-term memory. So, people think about the problems that happened in the past and they produce the same chemistry in their brain and body as if the event was happening. This is a mechanism that's primitive in our biology. And to be able to tame the animal so that if the animal self, so it's no longer in a state of readiness, where you place your attention is where you place your energy and of all the things you can place your attention on, place it on your heart. Now, slow your breathing down and if you can slow your breathing down, uh you can take your body out of that state of readiness. And when you slow your
breathing down, you slow your brain waves down and your body starts to move out of that state of sympathetic arousal. Practice feeling elevated emotions with your heart, kindness, care, love, uh appreciation, gratitude, and you'll get good at feeling that way uh if you keep doing it. Now, getting there is a daily practice. Getting there is something that you have to keep doing. So, the block for us to feel love is that if we're living in survival, you have to make up your mind that state is not a state to create in and break away from the people in your life and your, you know, your schedule and your phone and all the obligations you have long enough to reset just for a little period of time and to remember.
Yeah. So you don't forget. I think that's where it becomes super valuable. Yeah, I think you hit on a really important nerve that this idea that we're living in a constant state of stress. And when I think about our community who are thinking about dating, and I think about friends in my life that are trying to find romantic love, especially in their life, and their feeling around dating, mentally, physically, emotionally, is stressful. The idea of dating is stressful. The idea of being on a date is stressful. The idea of talking to someone is stressful. And it's so interesting, you're so right that how are you going to create when all of your emotions around this is stress. You've got the
stress of a timeline. Gosh, I'm in my mid-30s. I should have found someone by now is things I hear. Oh, I'm in the stress of I've been out on seven dates in the last couple of months and none of them were good enough. And so I'm in the stress of scarcity. And so you're so right, that's what we're feeling. How do get out of that system and that cycle? Because a lot of the time we've developed that feeling towards finding romantic love for like weeks, months, years. There's nothing wrong with doing any of those things. But when we're stressed, we're altered. That stress is when we're out of balance. We're not ourselves, right?
We can't relax and be authentic. And so typically, it usually takes a crisis or a trauma or a loss or a betrayal for a person to really decide is this really who I want to continue to be. So, my message is why wait for that, right? So, so there's nothing wrong with saying I want to be in a relationship. I want the following things in a relationship from this person or what might what might be my ideal relationship. Should you be talking about physical things or is it mainly emotional and connectedness? Like I think people have an image in their mind of what they like or what their type is or whatever that I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
But I think what people are really looking for is connection and joy. Like people should be in a relationship. The reason they should be in a relationship is to be overjoyed to be with a person that you're with, right? You want joy in your life. For me it would make sense then if the person got very clear on what they wanted, uh then they should start on the journey to become that very person. They should really work on being that very person that they want. So, there would have to be some change that they would have to make in order to be worthy enough to create a person that they would attract in their life. And we cannot
attract anything in our life that we feel separate from. Trusting in a future that you can't see or experience, you have to lay down the very thing you used your whole life to get what you want to trust that something greater could happen. And that's not something that's very easy. So, I like the idea that it wouldn't happen on a date that was from a app. It could happen in a bank. It could happen at a seminar. It could happen at the grocery store. And you know, all in a way that you least expect, right? And I think that when we get to a point where we're so happy with ourselves, we're no longer looking
uh cuz we feel like we already have it. I think that's the state where um uh people attract an equal. Mhm. Getting to that place feels like a challenge for people because it feels like I'm doing this so that I can get someone. Yeah. Right? It's always like connected that way as a Well, well, we're conditioned that way. We're conditioned in a way to like okay, I need something out there. I need the experience to prove. I need the event to occur. And the end product of that event or experience is called an emotion. The emotion takes away the lack or separation from not having it. So, we're waiting for the event to occur to take away the feeling of separation or lack. And actually, that's not the healthiest way to create. And act-
actually, we should feel the emotion of the experience before it happens. Mhm. So, that if you're feeling the emotion of that future before it happens, truly feeling it, you wouldn't be looking for it. Mhm. You would only be looking for it when you felt separate from it. Right? Mhm. So, can you maintain that state because the only way you're going to believe in that future is you have to feel the emotion associated with it. So good. The moment you feel the lack and the separation, you're going to believe in the past. And there's a story that goes along with the past that has everything to do with the dating is hard or finding a person or whatever that is. The story
that we tell ourselves that we actually accept, believe, and surrender to as if it's the truth, right? So, that's exactly what programs the subconscious mind in into a belief, right? What happens when someone's been catfished? When they've been betrayed? When they've been heartbroken? When they've been cheated on? When they've been lied to, manipulated, gaslit, like they've had a moment that has made them lose belief because they've been hurt and broken so many times in love. Yeah. And now, you're right, on a belief level, they don't believe they're lovable, they don't believe love exists for them, they don't believe good people exist. Right? These are all beliefs. And
so, what do you do when you've actually gone through quite a You could call it a traumatic, a toxic event or experience that someone's been through? Yeah, I think everybody's had those. I think once again, the stronger the emotion you feel from some event in your life, the more altered you are inside of you. The more you remember the event, the brain actually freezes that frame, right? Beliefs are subconscious states of being, right? It's those subconscious beliefs that really run our life and run our reality. So, it would make sense then to the person, unless I can heal from the experience and overcome the emotion, because the
memory without the emotional charge is called wisdom, and you never have to do it again, cuz you know now that you know. But, if you tell a person, like, "Okay, your subconscious mind is going to keep replaying the same experience in your life unless you heal." Okay, that could make sense to certain people. If you can't overcome that emotion, then you'll never be able to open your heart. Forgiveness then, and we've discovered this, forgiveness is when you overcome the emotion of your past, and you no longer have your attention on that person or that experience any longer, right? And so, you feel so good that you no longer want to feel bad, right? And so, you free yourself from that belief, and you free that
person as well, or the experience. The only person that this really is affecting Mhm. is me. They went on with their life. Yeah. You're holding yourself hostage to the past, right? So, then you got to trust that love is available, or love is real. In order for you to create someone in your life that is loving, um you would have to be worthy of love. And that means you would have to feel loved, too. So, I think people make their way out of this all the time. And we deal with severe PTSD, you know, with veterans. And those are the there's some pretty brutal memories there. And there's a lot
of trauma that's stored in the body, as well. And they deal with a lot of difficulties. And when you tell them, it's the heart that resets the baseline for the trauma in the brain. All you have to do is have the courage to open that thing again. And they may come up against themselves for a few days. But once it happens, uh and they understand the process, their past is wisdom. They don't have to ever go back there again, right? They understand it all. But there's no charge associated with it any longer. And that's when we belong to the future, right? That's when the synchronicities and the coincidences and the miracles and the opportunities begin to show up in our life that prove to us that we are the creators of our life.
What are some practices and what are milestones in the day that people can use to hardwire those thoughts and beliefs? Like what are some mechanism, what are some tactics that can make a day feel like, "Okay, that's my game plan for how I'm going to do this." What are some Yeah. key checkpoints throughout a 24 hour think it's bad to react. I mean, everybody reacts. I react. The question is, how long are you going to react? Because surely if you're feeling that emotion, you're going to behave as if you're in your past. And you're going to believe in that past. If people just set the intention in the beginning of their day, and we've all done this, and gone unconscious within the first hour, Yeah.
whatever it takes for that person with the if it is before they sit down and eat lunch, that they check in with themselves and see if they're still if they've fallen from grace or if they're still in that state or where they're at. If what they do it on their break, a person who's possessed in a good way, when they understand like when I change my life changes, and nothing changes in my life until I change, a person who's really committed to that, they will constantly be checking in with themselves because it they're paying more attention to their inner world. They're paying more attention to themselves and less attention to everybody else. They're really regulating their state. So, change is about reminding yourself over
and over again. Change is about the overcoming process. The overcoming is actually the becoming process. And people all the time that heal in this work, they're doing their meditations, they're not doing their meditations to heal. They're doing their meditations to change. And they discover that when they change, they heal. So now, if you accept that as a new belief that when I change, my life will change. And you got to keep reminding yourself of that belief. You got to keep reminding yourself if I change cuz this goes against the program. Like when my life changes, then I'll change. That's the program. No, no, no. When you change, the experiment is will your life change? Okay, so then now you attack the
belief. It's not like, oh my god, this is something that's bigger than me. You attack the belief like, this is no longer serving me. Being complaining is making me unhappy. So if you took that on as the truth, okay, I got to remember that. If I change, my health could change. If I change, my life could change. Okay, now it's a different game now. It's not like I have to. This is like I want to change to see my life change, right? It's more of a want to. I've seen people's brain scans when they're in that place of a transcendental experience. I've seen what the brain
looks like. That arousal that's taking place in that moment where they're connecting is not fear. It's not anger. It's not pain. That's what typically creates arousal of survival. This arousal is ecstasy. This arousal is bliss. They're having a transcendental moment where they're interacting with something that's beyond their senses that's causing their body to be lifted uh and aroused. How much work does it take? That's the crazy thing about what we're discovering. Get a group of people together. Give them information that's based on science. Have them understand the information. Have it teach it back to somebody. Have them understand what
they're doing and why they're doing it. You know, combine quantum with neuroscience and neuroendocrinology and psychoneuroimmunology and epigenetics and electromagnetism and Newtonian physics and all that stuff. But make it really simple that it makes sense to them so they can understand it. Have you seen any key traits that people who accelerate that process have? Yeah. Well, I think people have to be present with information and I think paying attention is being present. And I think it's a skill and the more you practice it, you the better you get at it. But if you're not present, then you can't hear the information because your mind is in the predictable future or the familiar past, right? So, that's why online courses for me is something that I never would ever do
because I don't want to compete with a person's attention cuz it's so much easier to forget this information than to remember it, right? But if you can get a community of people together, have them understand the information and then in 7 days immerse themselves fully into transformation and change. Sooner or later there's an emergent consciousness that takes place in the collective and this is what we discovered. Something happens that's intangible when you get a group of people together and they start overcoming themselves. And they sit with themselves long enough to be curious about what's on the other side of that belief instead of saying I quit and get up and get my cell phone or call somebody or go eat something or go
do something. You're going to sit there and you're going to just become really conscious that there's you're not going to give up on you. You're going to go past that point and just like infection spreads amongst the community and creates disease all of a sudden you see health and wealth and abundance. That's what we see at the end of 7 days there is an emergent consciousness that's reflected in people's biology and genetically they look like they're living in a new life. How long does it take scientifically to rewire a belief? I don't think you could actually measure that. I think there's too many variables.
The comprehension of the information, how long the person meditates, how present they are when they are meditating, what their past was like and you know there's a lot of variables. I've seen it happen instantaneously. What appears to be instantaneous but that person could have been grappling with that belief you know for a long period of time. So it turns out when we're relaxed in our heart the body is believing it's living in a nurturing environment and it begins to express new genes and that's exactly how we change. Because yeah I we always hear that you know the famous 30 to 90 days for a habit like 60 days for a habit that kind of thing to change a habit but a belief is so much more deeper than that.
Yeah. Well a belief is a habit of thinking. Yeah. It's just a really unconscious habit of thinking. I think everybody's belief should always be challenged. My in what's possible is being challenged today. I think that's fun. Like I watch the scientists that are doing the studies, the empirical studies. I'm watching them run the same experiment five times in a row because they're really expecting a different outcome. I know right in that moment they're changing their belief. I know right in that moment they're discovering something new. Mhm. I know in that moment they're going, "Oh my goodness, this is unbelievable."
Right? So, so I think the greatest belief that we could ever have is our belief in ourselves and our belief in possibility. And I think that has to be earned. That's That has to be earned. You got to show up for Mhm. enough times where you have that belief, you earned it. You know, we always hear that quote of like you only use 10% of your brain or whatever it is. What have you What has your research found of like how much we're not tapping into the ability that we have? Our data suggests that your autonomic nervous system manufactures a pharmacy of chemicals that works better than any drug. That's what our data shows. A drug study at its best is about 25%. One out of four people have a response and it usually takes
3 months or more to have an effect. We're seeing that the at the end of 7 days the 75% 84% 100% of the people that are in that are being tested are having the same outcome. So, their plasma, their blood, their brains in 7 days look like advanced meditators. People who just have never meditated before. Every time we've done a study we have been completely blown away by the power of human potential. We're greater than we think. We're more powerful than we know. We're more unlimited than we can ever dream.
