How to Set Strong Boundaries and Walk Away from Toxic People

How to Set Strong Boundaries and Walk Away from Toxic People

The speaker shares personal experiences of being blackmailed and abused, emphasizing the importance of setting strong boundaries and walking away from toxic people. She discusses how jealousy and insecurity in others can trigger attacks, and advises against trying to appease abusers. The video encourages self-preservation, therapy, and focusing on one's own life rather than engaging with haters.

Choose yourself and walk away. | Transcript:

If you are a beautiful woman, if you are a woman that has money, that has any talent, you better be prepared to become the biggest [__] ever. People, men and women, will attack you for no reason. They will not like you for no reason. Just because you're breeding, you will trigger them. So, you better be prepared to have some strong ass boundaries and to walk away every single time. Recently, I was in a situation with the father of my child where I had given birth and I was in a country where I didn't have all of my rights. I didn't have my family and this guy basically decided to blackmail me with my child.

If I don't do this, then he's going to take my child. If I don't do this, then I'm going to get deported. And I was constantly thinking, okay, let me just try to be nice and just pay for everything and do everything this guy asked so he will stop blackmailing. But guess what happened? It got worse and worse. And guess what happened even now? He went online and he literally said after I had to leave for my visa that I abandoned my child. I abandoned my child. No, I abandoned myself. Staying through all of the [__] for my child. I want to say to every single woman, if a man is blackmailing you with your child, give them the child. Let these men be single parents. We need to

stop doing what our mother has done, what our grandmother has done. My mother stayed for 25 years with a man. Let herself get abused because she was scared of the children being taken. I will not be blackmailed with my own child that I almost died putting on this earth. I don't want my son to grow up and think that it's okay to treat women like this, that it's okay to blackmail women like this. So if you're a mother right now and I've seen so many DMs of women of like I'm being blackmailed and by the way the system doesn't protect us court system you will go to court you will lose all of your money for years and they will still not give you the child even if they give it to

you these men will not help you with child support. So guess what how do we break this whole cycle that our ancestors all had to repeat? We break it by saying it ends with us. Let's make this world full of single dads. You know how many men were bullying me every day? Oh, she's a single mom. Oh, men, they have single moms themselves. They don't appreciate the effort that you put in. Let these fathers raise them. Why are we always putting ourselves in these situations where these men can just walk away for nothing. As a woman, you are not just sent to this earth to be a mother. You are not just sent to this earth to be a wife. You are a powerful woman. Stop giving your power away to

these men to stop giving your life away for these kids that tomorrow all are going to be just ungrateful. Hi guys, my name is and welcome back to my channel. Okay, let's get into it. First things first, first thing is when someone holds something over your head, you walk away. Whether it's a friend, whether it's a boss, whether it's a relationship, oh, I'm going to leak your nudes. Oh, I'm going to do this. Do it. You show those people no fear. The only power they have over you is that you are scared. When you show these people, I am not scared of you. You will not abuse me. You will not use me. That's when they lose all of

the power. Right now, my ex is begging me, begging me, texting me. Oh, I want to give you your child. I want to Oh, now you want to, huh? Because you realize I don't give a [__] and I never give a [__] Another thing is you better run away from people that are insecure and jealous. Listen, these jealous, insecure people will completely try to dim your light, try to humble you, and take every single soul or essence that you have, whether it's friends, colleagues, your relationship, run away. When you see that they're trying to compete with you, when you see that they're saying these slight comments of like, "Oh, you don't you're not all that. Oh, this and that." When you hear

these things, run for the hills. These people will only get worse and worse. You cannot make these people feel secure in themselves. You cannot control this person. They will only get more insecure because they are triggered by you. There is nothing you can do. You can't sit there and say, "I'm going to change myself and then they will like me more." They want you to stop breeding. They don't want you on this earth. Your essence, you breeding triggers them. You can't do anything but walk away. But I don't care who it is. You walk away from these people and you save yourself every single time. There was a point where I felt like everything was just hitting me at once. My schedule was non-stop and my

brain just wouldn't slow down. I felt stressed and honestly just stuck in survival mode. Starting therapy really helped me to take a step back and figure out how to manage everything in a healthier way. I learned coping tools that actually worked for me. For example, how to set boundaries and how to stop carrying everything on my own. It didn't make my life perfect overnight, but it made me feel way more grounded and in control of my life again. Having slow mornings where I can center myself makes all the difference to make me feel grounded. BetterHel is sponsor of today's video, and they are on a mission to make therapy way easier. With BetterHel, therapists will listen, ask questions, and help you see things

from a new perspective. BetterHelp makes therapy accessible wherever you are, whether it's online or through the app. Fill out a questionnaire and you'll match with therapist in as little as a couple days. 82% of clients recommend their therapist. Click the link in the description down below or visit betterhelp.com/wizardlist to get 10% off your first month at betterhelp because no one should go through anything alone. Betterhelp is here with you. Another thing is understand that a lot of people are projecting especially onto women that have any privilege. The society's biggest enemy is a beautiful successful woman that doesn't keep her mouth shut.

I swear you will have spiritual warfare on you. These demons will unleash and try to bring you down. You need to understand these people are projecting. These people have no life and they will never accomplish anything. It's men that cannot be with you and it's women that cannot be you that will be your biggest enemies. You still have to walk. Whatever they say about you, they are projecting because they're talking about themselves. You are what you say I am. Another thing is do not beef with people that have nothing to lose. These people have nothing to lose. They have no job.

They have nothing going for themselves. That's why they're hyperfixated on you and bringing you down cuz there's nothing going for them. You don't argue with them. You cut them off quickly. I need you women to understand if you are a privileged, beautiful woman, it is dangerous for your life to engage with these people. Just now I saw this guy, makeup artist, uh, Miss Venezuela. She was sitting and he takes a scissor and attacked her face with scissors. There's women throwing acid in other women's faces because she's beautiful. You guys don't understand how jealousy and hate will drive people to do the most insane things.

Guard yourself with your life. What you can do with these people, if you have a lot of haters, bullies, whatever, is use their energy and you transmute. Energy is energy. It's not neither good, it's neither bad. It's just you being sent a lot of energy and see hater energy or obs is very obsessive energy. It's not like just they're sending you love. No, it's like they're investigating and they're creating stuff. So, they're like very deep into it. This energy is really good if you know how to transmute it. For example, you take this energy, you can always ward your name. That's what I always do. like uh I say that anytime my name is spoken, good or bad, I get more beautiful, healthier and

wealthier, more protected. I say all of these things. So when whenever someone speaks my name, I just get more blessings. And second of all, you use that energy to create something out of it. Create something because anyways, if energy is being sent to you, your creation will get attention. When you create something, you can get more abundance out of it. Don't just sit there and victimize yourself. Never ever allow yourself to be a victim. People that are haters, people that are bullies, all these are victims. They think that life is against them. Whatever. People that take power back over their life, they never see themselves as a victim. I don't see any situation in my life that happened to me as like, oh, I was a victim. Maybe when

I was a child and my father was abusing me, that's when I was a victim. when I'm older and stuff. No, I don't believe I'm a victim. I don't believe that because at the end of the day, this situation was here to teach me something to awaken me. And also, I still have authority and power over my life. If I'm just a victim, that means that the other person has all the power and they don't. I can walk away. I can rebuild myself every single time. Another thing is stand up for yourself. Do not allow these people to talk down on you. Do not allow these people to constantly bully you. Stand up for yourself. No one is going to do it.

No one is going to come and be like, "Oh, I'm going to defend her." No. If you don't defend yourself, no one's going to defend you. Whenever someone comes to you with any weird energy, tell them, "Why do you talk to me like that?" Like just now, I had a situation with this guy. Uh I went on a date with him and he was like, "Oh, normal, whatever." And suddenly he just switched and I swear these people are like demons that are possessing them. It's so weird. What is going on in my life is so spiritual. It's so weird to me. So like suddenly he switched and he goes like, "Yeah, but you for example made uh all these women bitches." I was like, "Excuse me?" And then he's like, "Yeah." And he came out

of nowhere. I put this guy in his place so [__] fast. He started trembling. He was so [__] scared. And I walked out of that date. Do not [__] talk to me like that. I stand by what I did. If these women are [__] that watch the wizard list, let them be the biggest [__] ever. Men abuse, use, rape women, and when a woman comes online and says, "Let these men provide or don't just be with these men for nothing." Oh, then suddenly it's a problem. Then suddenly you guys are threatened. I rather be a [__] and an evil woman than a woman that gets used and abused every single day. When a man or anyone tells you that you are a good woman, you should take that as an insult because in this world to be a good woman means you

have to bend over backwards and you will still not be good enough. Nothing a woman does is ever enough. Ever. Example with me, right? All of these women analyzing my situation and like, "Oh, she shouldn't have got married too fast. Oh, she did this too fast. Did that too fast." Okay, so I'm a stupid [__] Okay, let's say that. But then when Christy Sarah comes online and then she was 14 years with her husband, gave this man three children and she was they had a whole empire. Everyone loved them, right? Suddenly he cheats on her and everyone in his comments is like, "Oh, he looks so peaceful now because she was annoying. Oh, so Christy Sarah did everything right, but she was annoying.

I did everything wrong and I deserved it." So whatever a woman does, it's never good enough. You guys are jealous and big man. Another thing is focus on money. I've said this again and again. If you are a woman, you have to focus on money. Do not focus on these relationship. Do not focus on I don't need to be a mother this and that. No, no, no. You focus on money. If you don't have money as a woman, you will be in the most shittiest situation. You cannot trust anyone. Not a friend, not whoever. Anyone can switch up on you like this. Why? Because we cannot control other people. A person can have a psychosis today and they can completely do something irrational to you. You can't control them. You just hope for the best. So, you need to make

sure that you always have money so you have the freedom to walk away. If I did not have money in my situation, I would be so [__] guys. I would be so pumped. Every day, I'm so grateful. Thank you, God, that I have money to walk away. Time and time again, I have seen women being left with no money by these men. Even if they give them children, they give them everything and they're left and stranded with nothing. You are a powerful woman once you have your own money. Also, focus on yourself. Listen, for my fans and for people that subscribe and stuff, they don't like drama. And I know that they're not invested in my drama either. My personal

life, you shouldn't care. You should learn from this. You should literally look at this and be like, "Shit, I should definitely not do that. I should definitely not get blackmailed, not even over my own child." Stop focusing on other people's lives and start focusing on yourself. Look, my ex, for example, has a weird obsession with me. I don't know what it is, but it's a weird obsession. And all he does is focus on me, focus on my life. And what happens? He completely has destroyed his life. He has lost everything because of it. And he can't stop focusing on me. This is what happens when you indulge in negativity. You're jealous. You're a hater. These people will never make it.

If you see a woman online that is talking about me constantly, 20 videos about me, please take that as an example to never be like her. That's a pathetic woman. I'm sorry. It's pathetic to come online and constantly talk about other people if that's the only thing you do. You have nothing going for yourself. It's sad. Focus on yourself. These people will never accomplish anything. They will be 80 years old tomorrow and they will have nothing to show for it. And last but not least, let go of trying to be a good woman or caring about your reputation. See, throughout society, women have always tried to upheld their

reputation and trying to be a good woman, this and that. But what it actually does is that they're just trying to control you. And the patriarchy thrives off controlling women. And other women are also trying to control women because they're oppressed themselves. It's oppressed people oppressing other people. No, you don't want to be like that. That is when you accomplish nothing. No one is going to give you applause because you were a good woman and because you listened. My mom for 25 years listened, did nothing, did everything she had to do. And guess what? She has to show for it? Nothing. There is still to this day people that believe my father was a good man and that she was an evil woman. Can you imagine that?

Do not ever give up any of your life, anything that you have going for yourself for anyone. If someone doesn't make you happier, richer, or more beautiful, they should not be in your life. Either you're going to learn to become the biggest [__] ever, or this world is going to eat you alive. Believe me, I've tried to be kind. I've I've been a people pleaser. Every single time I'm getting punished, God punishes me when I give more than what I receive. As a woman, you cannot do that. We are here on earth. We are the creators. This earth is filled by our children. There's mothers and their children. We should be respected. People should come to us with respect. And if they can't do that, if you stay, then

you will bear the karma for it. So, you better walk away. Anyways, guys, I love you so much and yeah, I'll see you in the next video. Bye-bye.

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